An update:
I hate wedding planning. Hate hate hate it. I don’t want a wedding. I think it’s stupid that I feel obligated to have one. I’m out of ideas and I’m out of caring. I don’t know why Craig and I don’t just elope. That would be so much easier.
I have to find a florist soon (do I have to? Has anyone out there done DIY flowers…is it hard? Is anyone willing to assist me if I choose that route instead?), and someone to make the stupid cake that we’ll spend tons of money on and probably no one will even like. I’ve never had wedding cake that I thought tasted worthwhile. And so I contacted someone that bakes cakes and they want a detailed description of what I want it to look like. Nothing in the title “Product Support Engineer” gives any hint of an idea that I know how to design a wedding cake. I am not that girl. So let me throw this out there to my audience for a poll or open suggestion item…how does a dummy cake sound? We’re having a dessert buffet at the reception…in other words, fruit trays galore and brownies, lemon bars, cake etc. What if I just get the fancy cake made with only 2 real layers (the top for Craig and I to eat on our 1 year and one other layer for us to cut that night to feed each other with) and the rest just get Styrofoam with fondant or other icing over it. I found a bakery that does that. Then we can just order tons of good cake from Sams club and have it pre sliced to cut out all the mess. And it would be a LOT cheaper. And with a guest list of over 350 now, I’m looking for ways to cut corners here. Also, our color is Tiffany Blue and in the ceremony we’re carrying white tulips but at the reception hall I’m going to have centerpieces of multi colored tulips…so if you have ideas for a cake that would work with this theme let me know.
Also, as far as centerpieces go….I’ve found plenty of blue mason jars to use as vases for the tulips at the reception. Let me get some input from those of you that decorate on a more regular basis than I do…will a mason jar with 6-10 tulips in it, sitting on a square mirror with petals dropped around it and maybe some smaller mason jars with tealights in them be enough on the table? Are you catching what I’m throwing? I was thinking for the lighted masons we could just tie ribbons around the rim to pull together the color theme.
If any of you ladies out there would like to help me with this please feel free to give me a call and force me to go do wedding stuff. Because frankly I’m getting to the point where I’m having a hard time motivating myself because I think it’s all completely stupid. I can’t believe we do things like this when there are starving children in the world. It makes me a little sick to my stomach to think about it.
I LOVE WEDDINGS AND I LOVE YOU SO I WANT TO HELPPPPP!!!!
Come on, you know me. I love this kind of stuff.
First of all: Do what YOU want. (Besides the whole eloping thing, cause that is NOT happening.)
Second: I think your cake idea sounds fine! Just keep the styrofoam one out of reach so no one tries to eat it! haha
Third: I don’t know any florists in Jeffersonville. But if you decide to go the DIY route, I would be MORE THAN HAPPY to help you.
Fourth: your centerpiece idea sounds great. I think that would be plenty to have on the tables.
Seriously, I can do anything you need me to do. Just let me know.
And yes, you have a good point with the whole starving children thing… if you wanted, you could find an organization you like and have your guests donate some money to that… even instead of a gift? But gifts are nice, but if you don’t want any then that might be an option for you, I don’t know…
But you know there are so many people that love you and Craig and are so happy for you guys and that love parties (like ME!) A wedding is a great way to get everyone together that you love and celebrate how God has brought you guys together. And I know you hate it, but just think of it as letting all these friends and family be with you on your wedding day. And it’s a way of saying how much all of these people have meant to you and Craig that you want them to be apart of the beginning your life together and to let them experience what a true God-centered relationship looks like.
Ugh… that probably made no sense at all. But you know me and weddings.
Seriously… call me, fool.
In my opinion, simpler is better. The simplest weddings I’ve been to have always been the ones that left the best memories. Jim & I went very simple as well. As for cake….we got ours here in town from O’Rears because they have great cake….the only place I would have paid for wedding cake from…..totally great taste! But that’s here and not down there. An idea since you’re having the dessert buffet…..set up a silver tiered stand with a cake layer on top for you & Craig to save for your first anniversary (you can put a traditional topper on it or an arrangement of tulip buds) then the underneath layers can be various tiers of different desserts to make up the layers of “cake” (who says you have to even have a dummy cake just to have the appearance of a wedding cake?). Then you & Craig could either feed each other pieces of some of the other kinds of dessert or have a small cake to cut & feed each other.
As for your centerpiece ideas….that sounds really pretty! Should I tell you I didn’t do any centerpieces for my own wedding….I just didn’t bother to set out tables (other than for the cake & punch and for the gifts)…..just put out chairs around for everyone to have a place to sit & chat wherever they wanted to. I told you we did everything really simply.
If there’s anything I can do to help you out during the days while the kiddos are at school, just let me know!
I’ve told Beth to contact you. It’s as if you’ve shined her bat light into the night sky.
I might be going to Myanmar this winter, so I’ll bring a starving kid home for you. She can be your flower girl.
Your wedding is for God and you (and Craig a little bit). If it all seems silly to you, just do what will honor that covenant YOU and CRAIG are making and bring focus to it. As for the reception, I haven’t heard anything about a keg yet. What’s up with that?
Lets do coffee or chat when I get back next week! I miss planning! My advise is make it you! My wedding was me, I didn’t spend a lot and it turned out beautiful! It all goes by sooo fast! Do not stress on the little things because in the end it won’t matter. Spend time enjoying your engagement with Craig, focus on the ceremony, bringing your own elements into the ceremony. I spent so much time on the details and I didn’t even get to see my centerpieces! Also I love your tulips idea! My friend Holly got married last april and used tulips in vases on mirrors and it was beautiful! You can definetly do your own flowers. Try Sams for the flowers too! I will be more than happy to help as well. See you soon! Don’t stress! Relax
It will all go by so fast! Soon you’ll be enjoying your honeymoon. I feel like just yesterday Phil and I were announcing out engagement and now we’ve been married for 6 days!